ABORTION

"Healing After Abortion For Grieving Hearts, Families, and Care Givers"

💔 Welcome to Memories After Abortion - Vol I

"Grief after abortion is real, complex, and often unspoken."

It arrives in whispers, in dreams, in moments of sudden stillness. It carries questions, regrets, relief, shame, love, and longing — sometimes all at once.

In a world that debates abortion with fervour, the personal stories of loss are often drowned out. The pain is dismissed, the love invalidated, the grief ignored.

Memories After Abortion – Volume I is here to change that.

This is not a book about politics or morality. It is a guide for healing, a companion for the grieving, and a testament to the sacred act of remembrance.

Whether you chose abortion, felt you had no choice, or were affected by another’s decision — this book walks beside you with compassion, wisdom, and grace.

Inside, you’ll find:

Gentle guidance for navigating the unique grief of abortion
Support for women, men, families, children, and communities
Real—life stories that affirm you’re not alone
Insights into cultural, spiritual, and societal dimensions of abortion loss
A path toward remembrance through our Memories After online wall

This is Volume I — the foundation. Volume II will explore deeper professional and communal support, including counselling, faith—based healing, and advocacy for those touched by abortion.

But this volume? It starts where you are now: raw, real, and reaching for hope.

"Because memory is sacred. Because grief deserves witness. Because love endures."

PART I – ABOUT ABORTION

Understanding the Context, the Choice, and the Silence

"Abortion does not happen in a vacuum."

Behind every decision is a story — a tangle of circumstances, pressures, hopes, fears, and love that could not find its way into the world.

"Part 1 – About Abortion" seeks to illuminate that story.

Abortion is often spoken of in extremes: political slogans, clinical procedures, moral absolutes. But rarely is space made for the human experience — the lived reality of those who have walked through it. The mother who chose. The father who stayed silent. The family who never knew.

"And in that absence of understanding, silence takes root.
Many carry the memory alone, unsure if their grief is even allowed."

In Part I, we step gently into that silence to explore:

The Context – The social, emotional, and practical realities surrounding abortion.

The Choice – The complexity of decision-making, often under pressure, fear, or necessity.

The Silence – Why this grief is so often unspoken, and the cost of that hidden pain.

By telling the truth—without judgement, without simplification—we open the first door to healing.
Because to remember, we must first understand.

And to heal, we must begin by seeing abortion as it is:

"A human experience, carried in real hearts, leaving real marks."

Chapter 1: The Weight of Choice

Every abortion story begins with a moment — a moment that feels like it holds the weight of the world.

It is a decision, sometimes deliberate, sometimes desperate, always complex.

This chapter explores the deeply personal and often isolating factors that shape this choice: personal beliefs, family expectations, financial realities, relationships, and health concerns. It acknowledges the lifelong echoes of a decision that may have felt like a choice or a necessity.

We’re not here to judge.

We’re here to hold space — for the complexity, the pain, and the love.

Because this choice, however it was made, carries ripples that touch your heart, your life, and your future.

"Your story matters.

Your feelings, whatever they are, are valid.

And your love, however brief, is real."

The Moment of Decision

The moment you realised you had to decide, the world may have stopped spinning.

Or maybe it spun too fast, leaving no time to breathe.

For some, it was a quiet realisation — alone with a pregnancy test, seconds stretching into eternity.

For others, it was a storm of voices — partners, parents, friends, or your own doubts — each pulling you in a different direction.

The moment of decision is rarely tidy.

It’s a collision of fear, love, survival, and uncertainty.

Maybe you were a teenager, heart pounding, facing a future you weren’t ready for.
Maybe you were a mother, balancing existing children with a pregnancy you couldn’t sustain.
Maybe you were in a fragile relationship — or utterly alone.
Maybe your health was at risk, or the child’s was.
Maybe the numbers in your bank account dictated what your heart couldn’t bear.

The pressures are countless:

Personal beliefs — faith that holds life sacred, or a spirituality wrestling with choice.
Family expectations — parents who might judge, or a culture demanding silence.
Financial realities — rent, mouths to feed, a future still being built.
Relationships — a supportive partner, or one who walked away.

In that moment, fear might have whispered, You’re not enough.

Love might have countered, You’re doing this for them.

Survival might have demanded, You have to keep going.

Uncertainty might have lingered, asking, What if?

"You don’t need to explain it.

You don’t need to justify it.

The weight you felt was real, and you’re allowed to give it space now."

No Two Stories Are the Same

Your story is not her story.

It’s not the story of the woman in the waiting room, the man beside you, or the friend who never spoke of her loss.

Every abortion experience is unique, shaped by the intricate details of your life:

A young woman choosing abortion to finish her education.
A mother protecting her health.
A couple deciding together, or a man feeling powerless.
A person in a country with restrictive laws, or one with access but no support.

The reasons are as countless as the stars.

Poverty. Illness. Timing. Fear. Love.

Each converges in a single truth: this was your moment, your heart, your life.

No one else can know what it cost you.

You don’t need to compare your grief to another’s.

You don’t need to feel “less” because your story is different.

The world may try to label abortion — pro—life or pro—choice, right or wrong — but your experience defies those boxes.

It’s a tapestry of your beliefs, circumstances, and love — a tapestry that’s sacred, even if it feels frayed.

The Aftermath

The decision was made, but the world didn’t stop.

"Something inside you shifted."

The aftermath is as varied as the choice itself:

Relief — a breath exhaled, a sense of reclaiming your life.
Regret — a quiet ache, or a wave that crashes without warning.
Numbness — a stillness that feels like protection, a way to keep moving.

Often, it’s all three, tangled together.

Relief doesn’t mean you didn’t care.

It might mean you survived a moment when survival felt impossible.

Regret doesn’t mean you chose wrong.

It might mean you’re mourning what could have been, even if it wasn’t possible.

Numbness doesn’t mean you’re heartless.

It might mean your heart is waiting for a safe place to feel.

The aftermath might be:

Crying in the shower, where no one hears.
Smiling at work, hiding the pain.
Avoiding the baby aisle — or staring too long.
A memory surfacing years later, triggered by a song, a date, a child’s laugh.

Whatever it looks like, it’s valid.

Society may say, “Move on. It was just a procedure. You chose this.”

But grief doesn’t follow those rules.

It doesn’t care about timelines or expectations.

It only asks to be seen, to be named, to be held with tenderness.

This book is that space — a place to rest, to be real, to be honoured.

Narrative Feature: The Ultrasound I Kept

Sarah, 32, reflects on the ultrasound image she saved, tucked in a drawer, and the love she still holds for the child she never met.

"I was 25 when I found out I was pregnant. Two jobs, barely making rent, boyfriend gone. The clinic was cold, lights too bright, nurse kind but quick. They showed me the ultrasound — a tiny shape, like a bean with a heartbeat. I didn’t expect to feel anything, but I did. I asked for a copy, not knowing why. I folded it into my wallet, a secret I wasn’t ready to face.

The decision wasn’t easy. I wanted to be a mom someday, but not then, not like that. I was scared — of failing, of my family’s judgement, of a life I couldn’t give. So I chose abortion. Afterward, I felt relief, like I could breathe again. But there was something else, something heavy, unnamed. Not regret, but close. I went back to work, paid my bills, kept going. The ultrasound stayed in my wallet, then a drawer, hidden.

Seven years later, I found it while cleaning — tucked between receipts and a birthday card. Time stopped. I saw her — I always thought of her as a girl. I sat on the floor and cried, not because I thought I’d chosen wrong, but because I loved her. I still do.

I look at that ultrasound sometimes, and it’s like she’s still with me, in a way I can’t explain. I named her Grace, in my heart. Not to punish myself, but to honour her. To say she was real, even if no one else knows."

A Path Toward Healing

The weight of your choice doesn’t have to crush you.

It can be carried with gentleness, with grace, with love.

This chapter invites you to:

Name your story — without shame.
Hold your grief — without judgement.
Let it breathe — in a space that sees you.

Memories After is a sacred space to:

Create a memorial.
Write a letter. Tell your story
Add photos, music, poems, prayers
Name the child you hold in your heart.

"Your choice was yours, but healing can be shared.

You are not alone."

Your decision, however heavy, was made in a life that matters.

"And the love you hold, however brief its time, is forever."

“The Lord is close to the broken—hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” — Psalm 34:18

Chapter 2: Social Stigma and Silence

Abortion grief is often buried beneath layers of silence — not because it lacks depth or pain, but because the world doesn’t always offer permission to mourn. In many circles, sorrow after abortion is seen as incompatible with choice.

The result? Countless women, men, and families carry their grief in isolation.

In this chapter, we name that silence. We confront the stigma that keeps abortion grief hidden and explore how breaking the silence becomes a radical, healing act.

"Because grief needs air to breathe. And healing requires truth to be spoken aloud."

The Unspoken Pain

Abortion grief is one of the few forms of loss that society often refuses to validate. When a death occurs — through miscarriage, accident, or illness — sympathy cards are sent, funerals held, casseroles delivered.

"But when grief follows abortion, silence follows too."

You may hear:

“You made your choice — why are you upset?”
“At least you weren’t that far along.”
“You can try again later.”
Or worse, nothing at all.

This dismissal deepens the wound. It sends the message that your sorrow is inconvenient, unearned, or politically problematic.

Yet your grief is real.

You don’t have to justify it. You don’t have to meet a quota of weeks or a threshold of visibility.

"Grief isn’t a competition — it’s a human response to love, loss, and what might have been."

Judgement from All Sides

Abortion sits at the intersection of some of society’s most charged and polarising debates. And caught in the crossfire are real people — hurting, healing, remembering.

From the pro—life world, there may be condemnation: “You killed your child.”

From the pro—choice world, there may be dismissal: “You made a valid decision, so there’s nothing to mourn.”

In both, there’s often no room for you — the person grieving.

The truth is more complicated.

Many who chose abortion did so with heavy hearts. Others felt cornered, unsupported, afraid. Some feel deep regret. Others feel sorrow without regret. Still others feel confused, uncertain, or numb.

And yet:

There is pressure not to speak.
To “move on.”
To avoid offending others.
To keep the pain invisible so it doesn’t disrupt the narrative.

This chapter invites you to step out of those constraints.

"You don’t owe anyone your silence.

Your grief doesn’t have to be hidden to be valid."

Breaking the Silence

There is profound healing in being heard.

Naming your grief — out loud, in writing, in prayer, or through memorial, breaks the chains of secrecy.

"It affirms that your experience mattered.

That your child mattered.

That your love still lingers."

Speaking the truth of your sorrow is not betrayal of your choice. It is not weakness. It is not a weapon.

"It is strength. It is healing. It is remembrance."

Ways to break the silence might include:

Writing a letter to the child you lost.
Telling a trusted friend or therapist.
Creating a private or public memorial on Memories After.
Attending a post—abortion healing group or retreat.
Lighting a candle on the anniversary of your abortion.

Each act says:

"This mattered. This is worthy of grief. This is worthy of love."

✍️ Narrative Feature: The Conversation I Never Had

Michael, 40, reflects on the silence that distanced him from his partner after their abortion — and the grief that lingered unspoken.

“When my girlfriend had the abortion, I thought the best thing I could do was stay silent. Be strong. Respect her decision and move on.

But she cried every night for weeks, and I didn’t know how to hold her pain.

I said things like, ‘It was the right choice.’ I thought I was helping. I wasn’t.

I never told her how I felt — that I missed the child too. That I’d imagined being a father. That I named him in my heart.

A few months later, we drifted apart.

Now, ten years on, I still think about that baby. I still wonder what would’ve happened if I’d just said something.

If I could go back, I wouldn’t stay silent. I’d say, ‘I’m hurting too. And I’m here with you.’

Because silence didn’t protect us. It just made us feel alone.”

A Path Toward Healing

If you’ve felt silenced, dismissed, or invisible in your grief, know this: your pain is not too complicated to be heard. Your sorrow is not too political to be named. Your love is not too brief to be honoured.

Let this chapter give you permission to speak.

Let it affirm that "remembrance is not weakness — it’s the beginning of healing."

And if you’re ready, the Memories After platform is here. A place without judgement. A place where your story, your grief, and your child can be remembered forever.

"Because grief doesn’t have to be loud to be sacred.
It just has to be real."

“You have kept count of my tossing; put my tears in your bottle." — Psalm 56:8

Chapter 3: The Global Context – Politics, Laws, and Beliefs

"Abortion does not exist in a vacuum."

It is shaped — and often constrained — by the forces of law, culture, religion, and politics. Around the world, the availability and experience of abortion vary dramatically. But whether in a clinic, a hospital, a bedroom, or a back alley, the emotional aftermath often remains the same: a quiet grief, a private loss, a need for healing.

This chapter is not about taking sides.

It is about giving voice to those whose stories are too often silenced by the noise of public opinion.
It is about recognising that laws may restrict or enable procedures — but they do not erase the human soul behind them.

Legislation and Access

In some countries, abortion is illegal under nearly all circumstances. In others, it is safe, legal, and accessible. And in many more, it exists in a legal grey zone — technically permitted but practically unreachable due to distance, cost, or fear of prosecution.

Each legal framework tells a story not just about policy, but about power — who is allowed to decide, and who must remain silent.

Consider:

Ireland, before 2018, where generations of women travelled in secret to the UK to terminate pregnancies — often alone, without support, and returning home to silence.
Brazil, where abortion is only permitted in cases of rape, incest, or danger to the mother’s life — yet underground clinics abound, often unsafe and traumatic.
South Africa, where abortion is legal and public, yet rural access remains limited and stigma deeply rooted in community life.
The United States, now a patchwork of contradiction — where one state offers abortion on demand, and the next imprisons doctors for offering care.

But laws do not prevent grief.

Even in countries where abortion is freely available, women and men still suffer in silence.
Even where it is illegal, abortions still happen — and so does the aftermath.

"The legal status of abortion may shape the journey, but it does not spare the heart."

The Political Divide

"Abortion is one of the most hotly contested moral and political topics of our time."

Pro—life activists often view abortion as a moral tragedy and fight for the rights of the unborn.
Pro—choice advocates defend reproductive autonomy and legal access to care.

But what happens when the debate drowns out the person?

"What happens when a woman,

sitting in the pew or scrolling social media,

sees her decision reduced to a hashtag or political weapon?"

She may wonder:

Am I allowed to grieve if I chose this?
Do I still belong to my faith, my party, my people?
Will anyone hold my sorrow without turning it into a slogan?

Politics thrives on absolutes. But grief lives in the grey.

"The experience of abortion is often layered with contradictions — love, fear, relief, regret, survival.

We must make space for that complexity.

"You are not a battleground.
You are a human being, carrying a story that can’t be legislated."

Cultural Narratives

Beyond law and politics, culture shapes how abortion is perceived — and how grief is processed.

In some societies:

Abortion is taboo, and the very word cannot be spoken aloud. Families disown daughters. Churches cast out congregants. Hospitals judge instead of heal.
In others, abortion is normalised, but the emotional consequences are minimised. “It’s just a procedure,” people say. “Why are you still crying?”

In traditional cultures, abortion grief may be seen as shameful, especially if it disrupts family honour or spiritual beliefs.
In secular cultures, it may be seen as irrelevant, especially if it contradicts the narrative of empowerment.

Both deny the soul.

"Grief is shaped by culture, but it is not erased by it."

If you come from a culture that silences your sorrow, this chapter is your permission to feel anyway.

"To grieve. To remember. To mourn.

Because your heart does not answer to politics.

And your healing does not need approval."

✍️ Narrative Feature: The Clinic Across the Border

Maria, 28, shares the story of her abortion in the U.S. and the grief she brought home to Mexico.

“I was a student in Monterrey when I got pregnant. I couldn’t tell my parents — they’re devout Catholics, and I knew they’d never forgive me.

I crossed the border to Laredo. Took a bus. Found a clinic. Paid cash.

I thought I’d feel relief after. And I did — for a while. But then the silence started.

I couldn’t tell anyone. Not my mother, not my sister, not my priest.

In my culture, abortion is a sin and a shame. But in my heart, I wasn’t trying to sin — I was trying to survive.

The grief came months later. Every time I heard a lullaby. Every time I saw a pregnant friend.

I held it alone, because I didn’t think I was allowed to speak.

One night, I wrote a letter to the baby. I burned it in the garden. It was the first time I felt peace.

I still haven’t told my family. Maybe I never will.

But I told someone. And that changed everything.”

A Path Toward Healing

You may live in a place where abortion is legal or illegal.

Celebrated — or condemned.
Accessible — or punished.

But your heart is your own. Your grief is your own. And your healing must begin from there.

If you have felt silenced by politics, religion, or culture, this book and our Free Memories After memorial are here for you.

Memories After is not political.
Memories After is not partisan.
Memories After is sacred.

Memories After is

— A place to tell your truth.
— A place to honour your child.
— A place to begin again.

“There is a time for everything… a time to weep and a time to laugh.” — Ecclesiastes 3:1, 4

Chapter 4: Faith and Abortion – A Catholic Perspective and Beyond

Abortion grief is often entwined with matters of the soul.

For many, abortion is not only a physical or emotional experience — it is also spiritual. Whether you were raised in a faith tradition or not, questions about life, death, guilt, mercy, and eternity may rise quietly — or rage loudly — after an abortion.

This chapter explores how faith, particularly the Catholic tradition, has historically shaped understandings of abortion and grief. It also opens the door to other spiritual traditions and secular reflections, affirming that no matter your beliefs, your grief can find a path toward peace.

"You are not beyond grace.
You are not outside of healing.
Even here — especially here — God can meet you."

Catholic Teachings: Doctrine and Compassion

The Catholic Church has long held that life begins at conception. Its teachings on abortion are clear: it is considered a grave sin. But what is often missed — or misunderstood — is that the Church also teaches radical mercy.

For decades, Catholic post—abortion healing ministries have reached out quietly to the broken-hearted:

Project Rachel, a ministry of reconciliation, offers confidential support, spiritual guidance, and healing retreats.
Rachel’s Vineyard, a Catholic—rooted retreat ministry, welcomes women and men alike to bring their pain into the light of Christ.

These ministries do not deny the Church’s moral stance. But they recognise this deeper truth:

“Where sin increased, grace abounded all the more.” — Romans 5:20

If you are Catholic — or were raised Catholic — and carry shame, fear, or guilt after abortion, you are not alone. And you are not irredeemable.

God has not abandoned you.

"The confessional is not a courtroom. It is a place of absolution.

The altar is not a stage for judgement. It is a table for the prodigal to return home."

Other Faiths: Diverse Paths to Healing

Not all spiritual traditions view abortion the same way — but nearly all recognise that it touches the soul.

Protestant Christianity offers a wide spectrum, from staunch opposition to quiet acknowledgement of individual conscience. Many Protestant pastors now provide pastoral care after abortion, emphasising grace and emotional healing.

Judaism holds complex teachings that prioritise the life and well—being of the mother. Grief is respected. Silence is not required.

Islam traditionally views abortion as permissible under specific conditions, especially if the mother’s life is at risk. Still, many Muslims carry deep spiritual questions and seek forgiveness and healing.

Buddhism may see abortion as a disruption of karmic balance, yet offers compassion and mindfulness—based healing practices.

Secular spirituality — including those who don’t identify with a religion — can still grapple with existential questions: Where did the soul go? Am I allowed to remember? What is love after loss?

Faith traditions differ in doctrine, but they share a longing for wholeness, for reconciliation, for peace.

"Whatever your background — devout, disillusioned, or uncertain — you deserve a space to wrestle, reflect, and find rest."

Finding Peace

Healing from abortion is not about rewriting your past. It’s about being honest with it — before God, before yourself, and when safe, before others.

Finding peace might mean:

Speaking with a priest, pastor, imam, rabbi, or spiritual mentor.
Attending a healing retreat or liturgical service.
Lighting a candle or offering a prayer.
Writing a psalm of your own, crying out like David: “Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.” (Psalm 51:10)

You may feel unworthy. You may fear divine wrath. You may wonder if God still hears your voice.

Let this truth reach you:

You are not defined by a single act.
You are not outside the reach of love.
God does not withhold mercy from the grieving. He draws near.

And remembrance can be a form of prayer.

To name the child.
To write a letter.
To place a memorial on Memories After.

"These are not just acts of mourning. They are acts of faith."

✍️ Narrative Feature: The Candle at Mass

Theresa, 45, finds solace during a Project Rachel healing service.

“I grew up Catholic. Catholic school. First Communion. Weekly Mass.

When I got pregnant at 21, I didn’t tell anyone. Not my priest. Not my parents.

I had an abortion in secret and stopped going to church afterward. I thought I’d be excommunicated — figuratively, if not literally.

For years, I carried the guilt like a stone in my stomach. I didn’t pray. I didn’t confess.

One day I saw a flyer for a Project Rachel retreat. I threw it out. But something pulled me back.

At the retreat, a priest spoke gently. No condemnation. Just mercy. Just Jesus.

We lit candles at the end of the service, each one for a child we had lost.

I lit mine and whispered her name — Anna. It was the first time I’d said her name aloud.

I sobbed like a child. And for the first time in 24 years, I felt forgiven.

I take her candle with me to Mass every year on All Souls’ Day.

She’s part of me. And God knows her by name.”

A Path Toward Healing

Faith and abortion do not exist comfortably in the same space for many. But God does not need comfort to extend mercy. He meets us in contradiction. He meets us in ashes. He meets us in silence.

Wherever you are in your spiritual journey — angry, distant, confused, devout — He sees you.

If you are ready, consider:

Lighting a candle for your child.
Creating a memorial that includes a prayer or scripture.
Speaking with someone who will not judge your grief.
Returning to the place of worship you left, even if just to sit.

"You do not need to understand everything to be embraced.

You do not need perfect theology to find peace.

You only need a heart willing to remember — and be remembered."

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” — Matthew 11:28

PART II – ABORTION GRIEF

"Who Hurts, How They Hurt, and Why It Matters"

Not everyone grieves the same, and not every grief is given permission to exist.
In abortion loss, grief is often denied a place to land — especially when love, guilt, and survival coexist.

This part of the book honours that grief — wherever it lives and however it shows itself.

Chapter 5: Women and Abortion Grief

No matter how the decision was made — freely, reluctantly, or under pressure — it is the woman who carries the pregnancy, undergoes the procedure, and lives with its aftermath in her body, her memory, her heart.

"And yet, in public discourse, she is often the one most silenced."

This chapter holds space for the full range of a woman’s emotional and physical experience after abortion: sorrow and relief, guilt and peace, numbness and love. It does not dictate what you should feel. It simply affirms that what you do feel matters.

"You don’t have to explain your grief to deserve healing.
You just have to be allowed to feel it."

The Physical and Emotional Toll

Abortion is not just an idea. It is not just a headline or statistic. It is an embodied event — something a woman experiences in her flesh and blood, her psyche, and her soul.

Physically, abortion can bring:

Hormonal shifts that mimic postpartum changes.
Cramping, bleeding, and breast tenderness.
Fatigue or insomnia.
Somatic reminders — like phantom kicks, dreams, or sensitivity to dates.

Emotionally, it can bring:

A strange blend of relief and sorrow.
An emptiness that catches you off guard.
Guilt for what was done.
Grief for what could have been.
Or silence — because the feelings are too tangled to name.

Some women feel strong and clear afterward. Others feel shattered. Many feel both — at different times, or all at once.

There is no formula. Only truth.

"And the truth is that abortion affects you — deeply, personally, bodily.
Let that truth be honoured here."

The Pressure to “Move On”

One of the most harmful lies told to women after abortion is that grief is not allowed.

“Don’t dwell on it.”
“You did what you had to do.”
“It was early — just a few weeks.”
“You’ll feel better soon.”

Even in healing spaces, women sometimes censor their pain to appear “strong” or “empowered.”

"But grief is not weakness.
Grief is love that has nowhere to go.
It is memory knocking at the heart.
It is the price of caring — even when survival demanded sacrifice.

You don’t owe anyone emotional neatness.
You don’t have to smile your way through your sorrow.

It’s okay to cry.
It’s okay to not know what you feel.
It’s okay to revisit a decision that once felt necessary — and still feel sadness.

There is no shame in feeling it all."

Healing Through Remembrance

Many women find healing not in “moving on” but in moving deeper — into remembrance, into ritual, into honouring what was lost.

This may include:

Naming the child in your heart.
Writing a letter to say what was left unsaid.
Lighting a candle every year on the anniversary.
Creating a private or public memorial on Memories After.
Talking to a therapist or support group who understands abortion grief.
Praying, meditating, or simply being still with your feelings.

Remembrance doesn’t undo your past.
It sanctifies it.

It says:

“This happened. This mattered. I remember.”

And through remembrance, love continues.

✍️ Narrative Feature: The Name I Chose

Emily, 36, shares how naming her child helped her find peace.

“My abortion was ten years ago. I was 26. It was my decision, but not one I made easily.

For years, I never spoke of it — not to friends, not even to my therapist. I buried the memory deep, convinced it was better that way.

But every so often, the grief would rise — on Mother’s Day, when my period was late, when a baby cried on the train.

One day, I was reading about memorials for pregnancy loss, and I came across a line: ‘Give your child the dignity of a name.’

The words pierced me. I’d never named her.

I went to a quiet park, sat under a tree, and whispered the name: Hope.

It was the first time I allowed myself to acknowledge she existed.

I cried — not out of guilt, but out of love.

Since then, I’ve written her letters. I light a candle every year. And I tell her I’m sorry, and that I love her.

Naming her didn’t fix everything. But it gave me back a part of my heart.”

A Path Toward Healing

If you are a woman carrying abortion grief — whether from yesterday or decades ago — know this:

"You are not alone.
Your grief is not shameful.
Your body remembers, and so does your soul."

Give yourself permission to:

Mourn what was lost.
Cherish what was loved.
Heal what was wounded.

And if you’re ready, visit Memories After. Name your child. Tell your story. Light a candle. Write a prayer.

"Let your grief become sacred.
Let your remembrance become healing.
Let your love live on."

“He heals the broken—hearted and binds up their wounds.” — Psalm 147:3

Chapter 6: Men and Abortion Grief

Men are often left out of the conversation around abortion — but many carry grief just the same.

Whether they were involved in the decision or left out entirely, whether they supported it, opposed it, or were unsure what they felt — men too can experience a deep, quiet sorrow after abortion. But unlike women, their grief is rarely named. It's often silenced by societal expectations, shame, or the false belief that they have no right to feel anything at all.

This chapter gives voice to that hidden pain.

It affirms that grief has no gender, and that men — like women — deserve a place to mourn, remember, and heal.

The Silent Partner

For many men, abortion grief begins in silence.

Some stood beside their partner in the clinic but were never invited to share what the decision meant to them. Others only found out after it was over — too late to speak, too late to act, too late to grieve.

Even those who supported the abortion may later find themselves wrestling with unexpected emotions: guilt, sadness, emptiness, or a longing they can’t quite explain.

And in that moment, they often hear:

“It wasn’t your body.”
“You don’t get a say.”
“You should be relieved.”

But a man’s grief is not erased by the fact that he didn’t carry the child.

He may still imagine who the child would’ve been.
He may feel the absence in the family that never was.
He may wonder if he failed to protect, to provide, or to speak up.

"Grief does not ask for permission.
It simply comes — and it deserves to be heard."

Guilt and Powerlessness

One of the most common themes in male abortion grief is powerlessness.

Powerless to stop the abortion when they didn’t want it.
Powerless to support a partner who was overwhelmed.
Powerless to express what they really felt.

Some men:

encouraged the abortion and now live with regret.
opposed it and feel unheard.
were passive, afraid to say the wrong thing, and now feel complicit by their silence.
are haunted by a lack of closure — a procedure that happened in a clinic they never entered, a child they never saw, a goodbye they never got to say.

"That powerlessness often turns inward, becoming shame.
And shame left unspoken becomes isolation."

This chapter is your reminder:

"You are allowed to grieve.
You are allowed to speak.
You are allowed to seek healing.

Even now."

Finding a Voice

Men heal when they are given space to feel.

Not to be judged. Not to be “fixed.” But to be seen.

Some ways men have found healing include:

Writing a letter to the unborn child.
Attending a post—abortion retreat or support group that includes men.
Creating a memorial — on Memories After, in a journal, or in a physical place.
Speaking with a counsellor, pastor, or friend who will listen without agenda.
Naming the child in their heart, not as a legal act, but as a sacred one.

Many men also find healing in action — mentorship, fatherhood, service. Grief can become the soil where compassion grows.

"Your grief is not a weakness.
It is a sign that your heart was involved.
And love — even unspoken — leaves a mark."

✍️ Narrative Feature: The Letter I Never Sent

David, 39, writes to the child he never met.

“I wasn’t ready. That’s what I told your mother.

I thought I was doing the right thing — supporting her choice, staying calm, being practical.

But now, I wish I had cried. I wish I had fought for you. Or at least told her that I wanted you.

The truth is, I didn’t know how much I cared until you were gone.

For years, I tried to move on. I buried myself in work. I got married. I had other children.

But sometimes, I still see your face in dreams. You’d be a teenager now.

I named you Samuel in my heart.

I’m sorry I didn’t speak up. I’m sorry I didn’t protect you.

I hope somehow, in some mystery I can’t understand, you know that I loved you.

And that I still do.”

A Path Toward Healing

To every man who carries abortion grief — know this:

You are not invisible.
You are not disqualified from mourning.
You are not weak for feeling sorrow.

Whether your role was active or passive, whether your heart was broken then or is only breaking now — you are worthy of healing.

Visit Memories After if and when you are ready. Write the letter. Share your story. Honour your child.

"Let your grief become a testimony — not of failure, but of love.
Let it be the beginning of redemption."

“The Lord is near to all who call on him.” — Psalm 145:18

Chapter 7: Families and Abortion Grief

"Abortion rarely happens in isolation."

Behind every decision are families — parents, grandparents, siblings, partners, even close friends — whose lives are affected, whether they know it at the time or not.

Yet family grief after abortion often goes unspoken. Why?

Because abortion is frequently a private decision. Because sometimes it’s kept secret. Because grief is not always “allowed” when you weren’t the one directly involved.

This chapter explores the ripple effects of abortion within family systems — how secrecy, silence, and sorrow shape relationships across generations. It also opens the door for healing together, not just as individuals, but as families learning to remember without blame.

The Hidden Mourners

There are people grieving who may never say it aloud.

A grandmother who finds out years later and realises she lost a grandchild she never held.
An aunt or uncle who senses a sadness in the family but doesn’t have the language to name it.
A father who encouraged the abortion but later wonders about the life that could have been.
A mother of a woman who aborted, who supported her daughter’s choice but now carries a quiet ache.

These are the hidden mourners — those who weren’t “supposed” to feel anything, but do.

Often, they wonder:

Is this my grief to carry?
Do I have a right to feel this?
Would saying anything just make it worse?

This chapter affirms:

"If you feel the loss, it is your grief.
And your grief deserves witness — even if you weren’t the one who made the choice."

Family Secrets

Abortion is often kept secret within families — especially in faith—based or traditional households where fear of judgement looms large.

Sometimes:

The abortion is hidden to protect the family’s reputation.
Parents are never told, siblings are kept in the dark, partners remain unaware.
The woman herself wants to forget, and so everyone follows her silence.

"But secrets have weight."

They may seem protective, but over time, they erode trust, shape relationships, and create emotional distance — especially when grief begins to surface in unexpected ways.

Family members might sense something is missing, but no one talks about it.

"Healing doesn’t require public confession — but it does require truth."

Sometimes, just naming what happened — without shame or blame — can begin to mend what was never meant to be broken.

Healing Together

When families make space for abortion grief — without judgement — something sacred happens.

"Walls come down.
Love deepens.
Grief is no longer carried alone."

Healing as a family might include:

Sharing stories and memories of the lost child, if known.
Naming the child together and honouring them on birthdays or anniversaries.
Writing letters to the unborn child from different family members.
Creating a physical or digital memorial on Memories After that reflects the entire family’s love.
Attending a healing retreat or service as a family unit.

"Healing together does not mean rehashing the decision.
It means recognising that love still lives — and that remembrance is a legacy worth sharing."

✍️ Narrative Feature: The Family I Didn’t Tell

Margaret, 67, reflects on learning about her daughter’s abortion years later — and how it changed their relationship.

“My daughter told me about her abortion fifteen years after it happened.

I was shocked — not by the fact that she’d had one, but by the fact that she never told me.

I always suspected something. There were times she seemed distant, especially around Mother’s Day. But I never pushed.

When she finally shared, we were sitting on my porch drinking tea. She was crying before she even spoke.

She said she thought I’d be disappointed. That I’d think less of her.

I wasn’t disappointed. I was heartbroken, for her, for the grandchild I never met, for the years we lost to silence.

We cried together that day.

A few months later, we planted a rose bush in the garden. We call it Grace.

Now, every time it blooms, we remember.

Not with shame. With love.”

A Path Toward Healing

If your family has been touched by abortion, whether openly or in silence, you are invited to grieve together — not as victims or villains, but as people bound by love and shaped by loss.

You may never all agree on the decision. That’s okay.

Healing doesn’t require agreement. It requires honesty, compassion, and space to remember what was lost.

Consider gathering as a family to:

Name the child together.
Light a candle in their honour.
Create a joint memorial through Memories After.

"Let your family become a sanctuary — not of silence, but of grace."

“Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.” — Galatians 6:2

Chapter 8: Children and Siblings – The Grief of the Young

Children feel what adults often overlook.
Even when words are withheld, grief can seep into the heart of a child — through silence, tension, absence, or the quiet knowing that someone is missing.

Siblings of aborted children, whether born before or after, may carry invisible grief. Sometimes they are told about the abortion; sometimes they sense it without being told. Either way, the loss shapes their sense of identity, belonging, and family.

This chapter gently explores the unique grief of the young — those who mourn siblings they never met, those whose parents carry sorrow they cannot explain, and those who ask questions no adult knows how to answer.

"Their grief matters too.
And they deserve more than silence."

Understanding Loss at Different Ages

Grief in children looks different than in adults. It is expressed through curiosity, behaviour, questions, and play — not always through tears or words.

How children understand loss depends on their age:

Toddlers and Pre—schoolers sense that something has changed but don’t fully grasp what. They may become clingy or confused.
School—age Children begin to understand death and may ask blunt or existential questions like “Where did the baby go?” or “Why didn’t they live?”
Adolescents can experience deep emotional turmoil. They may feel betrayed if they discover the truth later, or carry survivor’s guilt if they were born after an abortion occurred.

In all cases, children intuit more than we think.

"They hear the unspoken.
They notice the sadness.
They feel the missing space at the table.

And sometimes, they carry that grief alone — because the adults around them are too wounded or afraid to talk."

Signs of Grief

A child grieving a sibling they never met might show it in subtle ways:

Drawing pictures of babies, angels, or “imaginary friends.”
Asking repetitive or unexpected questions about birth, death, or family.
Expressing sadness without knowing why.
Struggling with self—worth, wondering if they were wanted.
Avoiding or obsessing over babies, pregnant women, or dolls.

These signs are not manipulative.
They are cries for connection and understanding.

"Children may not have the vocabulary for grief, but they feel its presence.

And they deserve to have it named, not hidden."

Supporting Young Hearts

The instinct to protect children by keeping abortion secret is understandable.

But silence can create confusion, and confusion can grow into shame or fear.

Children can handle truth — when it is offered with tenderness.

Supporting young hearts means:

Offering age—appropriate explanations.
("Before you were born, there was another baby. We weren’t ready, and it was a very sad time.")
Encouraging expression.
(Let them draw, write, or play out what they feel.)
Validating their questions.
(“That’s a really good question. I’m glad you asked.”)
Inviting remembrance.
(Let them name the sibling, plant a flower, or add a tribute to Memories After.)

"If the child is older, be honest about your own grief — but don’t burden them with guilt or adult regret. Let them see that love and sorrow can exist together."

Grieving a sibling is not abnormal. It is love, simply asking: “Where did they go?”

✍️ Narrative Feature: The Star I Named

Lila, 10, draws a picture for the sibling she never met.

“My mom told me about the baby when I was eight.

She said it happened before I was born. That she was really sad about it.

I asked if the baby was a boy or a girl. She said she didn’t know, but she thought maybe a girl.

I thought about that a lot.

At school, we did a project where we had to name a star. I picked one and named it Star.

I said it was for my sister in the sky.

I drew a picture of her. She has wings and curly hair. I hang it in my room.

Sometimes when I’m sad, I look at the sky and say, ‘Hi Star.’

I think she hears me.”

A Path Toward Healing

If you are a parent or caregiver of a child who may be affected by abortion grief — whether spoken or unspoken — know this:

"You are not failing them by telling the truth.
You are not harming them by allowing them to feel."

You are giving them a gift:

The gift of honesty.
The gift of connection.
The gift of remembrance.

"Let them name what was lost.
Let them love who was never born.
Let them remember in their own way."

And if you’re ready, create a family memorial on Memories After. Include their drawings. Their poems. Their stars.

"Let their grief be seen.
Let their love live on."

“Whoever welcomes one such child in my name welcomes me.” — Matthew 18:5

Chapter 9: LGBTQ+ and Abortion Grief

Abortion grief does not belong to one kind of person. It touches women, men, couples, families — and people across the full spectrum of gender and sexual identity.

For those who identify as LGBTQ+, the grief of abortion can be profoundly shaped by complex layers: secrecy, estrangement, invisibility, fear of rejection, or internal conflict.

Sometimes abortion happens in queer relationships.
Sometimes it happens before a person comes out.
Sometimes it is tied to medical transition, sexual trauma, or societal pressure.

This chapter honours those stories. It creates space for the often — overlooked grief of LGBTQ+ individuals — grief that may be real, raw, and holy, even if the world refuses to see it.

"Because your loss matters.
Because your love matters.
Because you deserve healing too."

Unique Challenges

Grieving after abortion is difficult in any context — but for LGBTQ+ people, there are often added burdens:

Family rejection makes it difficult to talk about loss, much less mourn openly.
Religious trauma can deepen guilt, especially if a person grew up in a tradition that condemns both abortion and their identity.
Healthcare discrimination may mean the abortion experience itself was traumatic, impersonal, or even unsafe.
Lack of recognition — people may assume LGBTQ+ individuals don’t face abortion at all, erasing their stories entirely.

These layers make it harder to reach out for support.

Some LGBTQ+ people may ask:

Is there space for someone like me in the healing community?
Can I grieve if I don’t fit the mould of a ‘traditional’ parent?
Do I deserve to remember a child I never told anyone about?

The answer is yes.

"You are not disqualified by your identity.
You are not excluded from grief.
Your story is welcome here."

Intersectional Grief

Intersectionality means that grief cannot be separated from identity.

A non—binary person of colour who has had an abortion may carry very different burdens than a white cisgender woman. A gay man who helped someone terminate a pregnancy may grieve differently than a lesbian who became pregnant through assault. A transgender man may face physical and spiritual trauma that few understand.

Each story matters.

You may carry:

Grief for the child.
Grief for the relationship that ended.
Grief for the body you no longer recognise.
Grief for the life that could have been, had the world been safer.

These are all valid.

"Grief is not about fitting a narrative.
It is about naming what was lost — and finding a place to mourn it without having to explain who you are."

Creating Space for Healing

LGBTQ+ abortion grief is sacred, even if unspoken.

Healing can begin with:

Telling your story — to someone safe, to a journal, or to a wider community that understands.
Creating a personal ritual — lighting a candle, planting a flower, or wearing a keepsake in memory of the child.
Using inclusive healing spaces like Memories After, where memorials are not confined by gender, relationship, or tradition.
Connecting with LGBTQ+—affirming therapists, clergy, or grief groups who will honour your full identity and your loss.

You do not have to split yourself in two — one side for who you are, another for what you feel.

"You are whole.
And your grief deserves a home."

✍️ Narrative Feature: The Ring I Wear

Alex, 30, a non—binary person, shares how a small ritual became their act of remembrance.

“I was 22, still using she/her pronouns, in a relationship with a man who wasn’t kind.

When I got pregnant, I panicked. I had no money, no support, no real voice. I chose abortion — and at the time, it felt like surviving.

Afterward, I changed everything. I cut my hair. I came out. I started using they/them. I found a community that saw me.

But the abortion never left me. It just went quiet.

Years later, I bought a small silver ring. Simple, thin, nothing flashy. I wear it on my right hand, always.

It’s my reminder. My ritual. My way of saying:
‘You existed. You mattered. I remember.’

I never told my family. But I named the child Sky.

Some days I feel grief. Some days I feel peace. But I always feel love.”

A Path Toward Healing

If you are LGBTQ+ and grieving an abortion — know this:

You do not need permission to mourn.
You do not have to conform to heal.
You are seen. And you are not alone.

"Your loss is real.
Your love is valid.
Your grief is welcome here."

If you’re ready, visit Memories After and create a tribute. Let your story be told in your voice. Let your identity be part of the healing — not hidden from it.

"There is room at this table for you.
There always has been."

“There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” — Galatians 3:28

PART III – THE EMOTIONAL LANDSCAPE OF ABORTION GRIEF

"Navigating the Complexities of Loss"

Grief after abortion does not arrive in a straight line.

It is not predictable, formulaic, or tidy. Instead, it is layered, contradictory, and deeply personal.

This part of the book explores the emotional terrain many walk in silence

— where sorrow and relief coexist, and where love often lingers long after the decision.

Chapter 10: The Many Faces of Abortion Grief

Abortion grief wears many faces.

It may look like relief, and still feel like loss.
It may resemble strength, while hiding sorrow.
It may show up as numbness, anger, anxiety, or silence — and still be grief.

This chapter names the emotional complexity of abortion grief. It affirms that what you feel — however confusing, inconsistent, or unwelcome — is not only valid, but sacred.

"Grief is not a failure.
It is evidence that something mattered."

The Spectrum of Emotions

There is no “correct” way to feel after an abortion.

Some people expect devastation and feel nothing. Others expect closure and are haunted by sudden waves of emotion years later. Still others feel both peace and sadness, often in the same breath.

You may feel:

Relief, because the crisis passed.
Guilt, because you wonder if you did the right thing.
Sorrow, for the life that could have been.
Shame, for feeling anything at all.
Love, that endures beyond loss.
Numbness, when your body remembers but your mind refuses.

These emotions are not mutually exclusive.

"They can all be true."
"They can all be holy."

There is no right timetable, no emotional purity test, no finish line that says, “You’ve processed it now.”

"You are allowed to feel whatever you feel

— for as long as you feel it."

Guilt and Shame

Guilt says, “I did something wrong.”
Shame says, “I am something wrong.”

Both can follow an abortion, especially if you grew up in a culture, church, or family that treated abortion as a moral failing — or refused to speak of it at all.

You may hear echoes like:

“You should’ve known better.”
“You ended a life.”
“You don’t get to grieve.”

Guilt is not always a sign of wrongdoing.

"Sometimes it’s simply love, confused.
Or responsibility, exaggerated by regret."

Shame, on the other hand, is never from God.

"It isolates. It silences. It keeps healing at bay."

This chapter invites you to distinguish between guilt that leads to growth — and shame that keeps you stuck.

"You are not your decision.
You are not your past.
You are still worthy of compassion, dignity, and love."

Love Without a Destination

One of the most misunderstood aspects of abortion grief is that love continues — even when the pregnancy doesn’t.

You may still think of the child on their would—be birthday.
You may light candles or whisper a name only you know.
You may feel tenderness for someone you never held.

"This is not strange.
This is not pathology.
This is love."

And when love has nowhere to go — no crib, no photograph, no family story — it becomes grief.

You don’t have to stop loving your child.
You don’t have to forget them in order to move forward.

"Remembrance is one of the most powerful ways to express that love."

Consider:

Writing a letter that says what your heart still holds.
Naming the child, even privately.
Creating a tribute or online memorial through Memories After.

"Let your love be lived, not buried."

✍️ Narrative Feature: The Day I Cried for Both

Rachel, 29, reflects on the contradiction of relief and sorrow.

“I was already a mother when I got pregnant again. I had a toddler and a partner who had just lost his job.

The thought of another baby felt overwhelming. I cried every day. We chose abortion.

Afterward, I felt relief. It was over. I could breathe again.

But then, one night, I walked into my daughter’s room and saw her sleeping. And I started sobbing.

I wasn’t crying for the baby I had — or the one I lost — but for both.

For how much I loved them. For how hard it had been.

I realised then that grief doesn’t mean I regret my decision.

It just means I cared.

And I still do.”

A Path Toward Healing

If your grief feels confusing — welcome.
If your emotions don’t fit what others expect — good.
That means you are being honest.

"Grief is not a problem to fix.
It is a companion to listen to."

Let your tears flow, even if they arrive next to relief.
Let your silence speak, if that’s where your soul has gone.
Let your love find a name, a letter, a candle, a home.

“The heart knows its own bitterness, and no stranger shares its joy.” — Proverbs 14:10

Chapter 11: Traumatic Abortion Experiences

Not every abortion is experienced the same way.

For some, the experience is manageable — even redemptive.
For others, it is devastating. Scarring. Traumatic.

"Trauma can be caused by what happened — or how it happened."

It can emerge from pain, coercion, abandonment, religious condemnation, medical negligence, or simply the unbearable weight of the decision itself.

This chapter explores the reality of abortion as trauma for some individuals.

It does not claim that all abortion is traumatic.

But it refuses to ignore the very real stories of those who carry lasting wounds from what should have been a moment of care — or was never truly a choice at all.

If that is your story, know this:

"You are not weak.
You are not crazy.
You are not alone."

What Makes It Traumatic

Trauma is not defined by the event alone — it is defined by the nervous system’s response to threat, pain, and helplessness.

Some factors that make abortion traumatic include:

Coercion: Being pressured, manipulated, or forced into the decision by a partner, family, or abuser.
Medical trauma: Invasive or painful procedures, rushed treatment, lack of aftercare, or poor bedside manner.
Relational abandonment: Being left to face it alone — emotionally, financially, or physically.
Spiritual trauma: Deep conflict with one’s beliefs, or fear of being condemned by God, family, or church.
Historical trauma: Past abuse, rape, or miscarriage that resurfaces through the abortion experience.

It may not have felt like a choice at all.
It may have felt like survival.
It may have left you feeling violated, powerless, or numb.

"Trauma buries itself in the body.
But it can also be named.
And it can be healed."

Signs of Trauma

Sometimes trauma after abortion is immediate. Other times, it surfaces weeks, months, or years later — especially around anniversaries, pregnancies, losses, or major life transitions.

Common signs include:

Flashbacks or intrusive memories of the clinic, the procedure, or the decision.
Avoidance of anything that reminds you of the abortion (babies, hospitals, certain people).
Nightmares or disturbed sleep.
Emotional numbness, withdrawal, or panic attacks.
Body memories — nausea, pain, or discomfort without clear cause.
Hypervigilance or feeling unsafe in your own skin.
Spiritual crisis, shame, or fear of judgement.

These are not signs of weakness.
They are the body’s attempt to protect you.

"But you do not have to live in this place forever.
There is a way forward."

Seeking Healing

If you suspect your abortion experience was traumatic, you deserve compassionate, informed support.

Steps toward healing may include:

Trauma—informed therapy, especially with a professional who respects the complexity of abortion loss.
Somatic therapies like EMDR, sensorimotor therapy, or yoga—based trauma healing.
Spiritual care with a trusted chaplain or minister — someone who can hold grace and grief together.
Naming the trauma, whether in a journal, in a support group, or on the Memories After platform.
Creating a safe ritual to release shame and honour the child lost — not as punishment, but as an act of remembrance.

"You are not “stuck.”
You are not beyond repair.
You are a survivor. And survivors can heal."

✍️ Narrative Feature: The Room I Can’t Revisit

Jessica, 34, shares the lingering pain of a coerced abortion.

“I didn’t want to do it. But he said we had no choice. That we couldn’t afford it. That he’d leave.

I was 21. Scared. In love. Afraid of being alone.

I went to the clinic with my heart in pieces. I remember the smell of antiseptic. The cold metal table. The way the nurse didn’t look me in the eye.

I cried through the whole thing. No one stopped. No one asked if I was sure.

I haven’t been back to that part of town in twelve years. I still avoid it.

Some nights, I wake up and feel like I’m back in that room. Trapped. Silent.

It took me years to realise what I felt wasn’t just grief. It was trauma.

Now I see a counselor. I’ve told a few close friends. I wrote a letter to the baby and placed it in a box with a feather and a prayer.

I named him Elijah.

I still cry. But now, it’s a healing cry — not a haunted one.”

A Path Toward Healing

If your abortion experience was traumatic, you don’t need to justify that to anyone.
You don’t need to explain how early the pregnancy was, or whether you “chose” it.

If it hurt you — it matters. If it broke something in you — it matters.

"Let that wound be seen.
Let that pain find a name.
Let that story be remembered, not erased."

Visit Memories After when you are ready.
Create a memorial, not to re—traumatise, but to reclaim.

"Reclaim your voice. Your love. Your dignity."

You are not what happened to you.
You are someone who is healing, and that is holy work.

“Though I walk in the midst of trouble, you preserve my life.” — Psalm 138:7

Chapter 12: Delayed Grief – When the Pain Comes Later

Not all grief comes immediately.
Sometimes, it waits in silently — for years, for decades — until life stirs it awake.

"Grief after abortion is often delayed."

It may remain hidden beneath survival, busyness, relief, denial, or necessity. Then, one day, it surfaces — through a song, a milestone, a question, or a new pregnancy — and it demands to be felt.

This chapter honours the slow grief, the late grief, the grief that arrives long after the decision was made. It reminds you that there is no expiration date on love, on sorrow, or on remembrance.

"You are not too late.
Healing begins the moment you’re ready to name what was lost."

Why Grief Waits

Grief doesn’t always arrive when expected. Especially after abortion, many people do not initially feel sadness.

For some, the decision brought immediate relief.
For others, survival mode kicked in, and emotions were suppressed — buried so deep that even they were forgotten.

Reasons for delayed grief include:

Shock or denial at the time of the abortion.
Pressure to “move on” from family, culture, or peers.
Lack of permission to feel sorrow over a choice.
Mental health defences, such as numbing or dissociation.
No safe space to process what happened.
Life circumstances that demanded immediate focus — work, school, family.

"Delayed grief doesn’t mean your feelings are inauthentic.
It means your heart waited for a time when it could finally speak.

And when it does, it’s not betraying the past.
It’s honouring what your soul has always known."

Triggers and Milestones

Delayed abortion grief is often activated by life events that bring the loss into sharper focus.

These may include:

Pregnancy or birth of a subsequent child.
Miscarriage or infertility struggles.
Mother’s Day or Father’s Day.
Anniversaries of the abortion date.
Hearing a child’s name that you once considered.
Seeing a child who would be the same age now.
A simple question, like “Do you have kids?”
Menopause or aging, when the possibility of future children fades.

In these moments, sorrow can rise suddenly — unexpected and overwhelming.

You may find yourself weeping in a supermarket aisle, withdrawing from a family gathering, or aching with a sadness you cannot explain.

"This is not regression.
This is remembrance.
This is love that’s been waiting for a voice."

Embracing Late Healing

If you are grieving years after your abortion — welcome.

"You have not missed your moment.
Healing is not a window that closes.
It is a door that opens when you are ready."

Ways to begin late—stage healing may include:

Writing a letter to the child you never got to meet.
Speaking with a counsellor who understands abortion grief.
Creating a tribute through Memories After, even if decades have passed.
Telling a trusted friend or family member, breaking the silence you’ve held.
Attending a retreat designed for post—abortion healing, no matter how much time has passed.
Marking a meaningful date with a ritual of remembrance — lighting a candle, planting a tree, visiting a sacred place.

"It is never too late to remember.
Never too late to heal.
Never too late to love."

✍️ Narrative Feature: The Question My Daughter Asked

Laura, 42, shares how her abortion grief surfaced after becoming a mother.

“I had an abortion when I was 19. I was in college, terrified, alone. My boyfriend disappeared. My parents said nothing. I did what I had to do, and then I buried it.

I married later, had two children, built a life. I never thought about it — until my daughter turned nine.

One night, she looked at me and asked, ‘Did I ever have a sister?’

I froze. Tears welled up before I knew why.

I realised I had never grieved. I had never even spoken of the child I lost.

That night, after she fell asleep, I wrote a letter. I called her Rose.

I cried like I’d just come out of surgery. Like it had happened yesterday.

It was the most painful and most freeing night of my life.

I’ve told no one but my husband. But now, I light a candle every October. I say her name.

I missed her for 23 years — and now, I finally let myself love her.”

A Path Toward Healing

"Grief is not bound by time.
It does not expire. It does not diminish what mattered.
It simply waits for space — and for love to remember.

If your grief has come late, welcome it.
It is not an interruption — it is an invitation.
To speak. To honour. To begin again.

Memories After is ready when you are.
There is no deadline.
There is only grace."

“I waited patiently for the Lord; he turned to me and heard my cry.” — Psalm 40:1

Chapter 13: When Abortion Grief Meets Other Losses

"Grief does not exist in isolation."

It is rarely singular. Often, it is layered — woven through with other sorrows that complicate, intensify, or obscure its shape.

For many:

"Abortion grief is not the only grief they carry."

It intersects with miscarriage, infertility, stillbirth, divorce, illness, family estrangement, or the death of a loved one. Sometimes it is one loss in a long sequence. Other times it reawakens pain from decades past.

This chapter speaks to the complexity of compound grief — when abortion loss doesn’t stand alone, but instead echoes alongside or inside other wounds. Here, we name that interweaving, not to untangle it neatly, but to affirm: all of it matters. All of it deserves compassion.

"You are not too broken to be understood.
You are simply a soul who has loved — and lost — more than once."

Layered Grief

Abortion grief may resurface — or become more intense — when other forms of loss are present.

These include:

Miscarriage, which can stir comparison, self—blame, or deep confusion about why one child lived and another did not.
Infertility, which often brings questions like: “Did I waste my only chance?” or “Is this punishment?”
Stillbirth or neonatal death, which may deepen sorrow for a child lost to abortion in a different season of life.
Trauma or abuse, especially when past violations complicate bodily autonomy and trust.
Divorce or broken relationships, which can unearth grief over the family that never was.
Loss of a parent or sibling, which reawakens the value and fragility of life — and stirs longing for the child who might have been.

"Grief is not competitive.
You don’t have to choose which loss matters more.
They all matter.

You don’t have to separate them to honour them.
You just have to name them."

Navigating Complexity

When griefs overlap, emotions can become tangled:

You may feel guilt for crying over the abortion when another death seems “bigger.”
You may feel shame for not grieving sooner — because another loss opened the floodgates.
You may find yourself grieving one child, but thinking about another.
You may feel confused about what you're mourning — because it all feels too big.

"This is normal. This is human."

Grief is not an orderly procession. It is a mosaic. A tapestry. A wilderness.

And in that wilderness, you are allowed to feel it all.

Tips for navigating layered grief:

Acknowledge each loss — don’t rank them, just name them.
Use journaling to explore where different griefs intersect.
Speak to a trauma—informed counsellor who can hold all parts of your story.
Light multiple candles — one for each soul you miss.
Create a memorial that includes them all. One garden, one prayer, one page.

"Wholeness does not mean everything fits.
It means everything belongs."

Honouring All Losses

One of the most healing acts for those carrying multiple griefs is to honour them collectively.

"You don’t need a separate space for each sorrow.
You can build one altar. One tribute. One act of remembrance that enfolds them all."

Consider:

Planting a tree with several names inscribed beneath it.
Writing a shared letter to “all my children, seen and unseen.”
Adding a single memorial to Memories After that reflects the depth and breadth of your loss story.

It doesn’t have to be tidy.
It just has to be true.

Let every grief be spoken.
Let every name be honoured.
Let every part of your heart have room.

✍️ Narrative Feature: The Memorial for Two

Anna, 38, shares how abortion grief and infertility wove into one sacred remembrance.

“I had an abortion at 19. It was the hardest decision I ever made.

I told myself there would be time. That I’d become a mother when I was ready.

Years later, I married. We tried for children — for six years. Nothing. We did everything: tests, procedures, prayers. Nothing.

One night, after another failed round of IVF, I collapsed in the hallway and sobbed for both of them.

The child I let go… and the one I couldn’t have.

That’s when I decided to stop dividing my grief.

I made a small garden in our backyard. I placed two stones in the soil. One says “Mercy.” The other says “Grace.”

I sit there sometimes in the early morning.

I talk to them. I remember them.

I’m still waiting for a child. But I’m no longer pretending those two didn’t exist.

They did. And they still do.”

A Path Toward Healing

If your abortion grief is tangled with other sorrows, know this:

You are not too complicated to be cared for.
You are not too broken to be blessed.

Grieve it all.
Speak it all.
Honour it all.

Let Memories After be a place where the whole of your story can live.

"You don’t have to separate your wounds.
You just need a place to lay them down."

“The Lord is close to the broken—hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” — Psalm 34:18

PART IV – HEALING THROUGH REMEMBRANCE

"Building a Legacy of Love"

Some wounds do not heal by forgetting.
They heal by remembering — intentionally, tenderly, without shame.

This part of the book offers tangible ways to transform sorrow into sacred memory.
It invites you to honour the life that was lost — not as a way of reopening grief, but as a way of reclaiming love.

Chapter 14: Lifelong Grief – Carrying Abortion Loss Through the Years

Some losses fade.
Others live with us — quietly, deeply — for a lifetime.

Abortion grief is often misunderstood because it doesn’t always follow a predictable arc. It may lie dormant for years, only to resurface at unexpected moments: a birthday, a hospital room, a graduation, a grandchild’s birth.

This chapter honours the lifelong nature of abortion loss.
It affirms that grief isn’t a failure of healing — it’s a sign of enduring love.

You are not “stuck” because the pain returns.
You are not “weak” because tears still come.
You are simply someone "who loved". And love remembers.

Grief Across Life Stages

Abortion grief does not always hit hardest in the immediate aftermath. For many, it matures — and in some ways deepens — as life unfolds.

In your 20s–30s, grief may be buried under survival: relationships, education, denial, or distraction.
In your 40s, it may surface as you begin reflecting on life choices, or when other pregnancies awaken what was lost.
In your 50s–60s, it may appear around menopause, when fertility ends and the “what if” becomes permanent.
In your 70s and beyond, it may take the shape of legacy — reflections on the child never met, the story never told, or the peace still longed for.

There is no shame in grief reawakening.
Each stage of life brings new perspective — and new opportunities to remember with tenderness.

Milestones and Triggers

Certain life events can stir abortion grief in unexpected ways:

Menopause – the final closing of the womb often brings unprocessed grief to the surface. You may wonder: Was that my only chance? Did I honour her?
Becoming a parent – pregnancy and childbirth can intensify grief, even while joyfully welcoming new life.
Losing a parent – the death of your own mother or father may trigger longing to reconnect with lost children.
Becoming a grandparent – watching a grandchild grow may fill you with awe and gratitude — and a quiet ache for the child who is missing.
End—of—life reflections – in moments of legacy and mortality, the soul may long to reconcile what was once hidden.

These triggers are not setbacks.
They are invitations to remember — gently, fully, without fear.

You are allowed to return to the memory again and again.

"As each time can bring new healing."

Carrying Love Forward

Abortion grief may never disappear entirely — and perhaps it shouldn't. Because grief, when transformed, becomes a sacred thread in the fabric of your life.

"You don’t have to be “done” with it.
You don’t have to forget to move forward."

You can carry love forward in these ways:

Tell the truth – to yourself, to your family, or to one trusted person who will hold it with compassion.
Leave a legacy – through writing, mentoring, or memorialisation that includes your child.
Include them in your spiritual life – light a candle, say a prayer, speak their name in sacred spaces.
Create a multigenerational bridge – tell your children or grandchildren. Let them know that part of your story includes a life you never got to raise, but always remembered.
Choose peace over perfection – you don’t need perfect closure. Just real, honest, merciful remembrance.

"Your story, even decades later, still matters.
And your child’s memory still lives."

✍️ Narrative Feature: The Grandmother’s Reflection

Eleanor, 65, describes how becoming a grandmother brought unexpected healing.

“I had an abortion when I was seventeen. I told no one for forty years.

When my daughter gave birth to my first grandchild, I was overwhelmed — not just with joy, but with sorrow.

I looked at that baby and thought: There should be another name in the family tree.

One day, I sat with my granddaughter on my lap, rocking her to sleep. I whispered, ‘You had an aunt. Her name was Lily.’

I didn’t say more. But I lit a candle that night.

And for the first time, I felt like my past wasn’t a secret anymore.

It was a thread in the story of who I am — and who we are.

That moment didn’t erase my grief.
But it made it sacred.”

A Path Toward Healing

Healing after abortion isn’t a finish line.
It’s a lifelong journey of loving, remembering, reconciling, and honouring.

There will be quiet days.
There will be weeping nights.
There will be unexpected peace.

If you are in your later years, it is not too late to grieve.
Not too late to remember.
Not too late to heal.

Let Memories After hold your story.
Let it be your legacy of love.

"Because remembrance is not about age.
It is about eternity."

“He has made everything beautiful in its time.” — Ecclesiastes 3:11

Chapter 15: Digital Mourning, Memorial Pages, and Online Legacies

Grief has always found form — ashes, black garments, candlelight.
But in the digital age, it also finds screens.

Today, mourning moves online:

Facebook profiles become shrines
Instagram photos become eulogies
TikTok tributes go viral
YouTube comments become prayer walls
Text threads, playlists, email drafts — each a relic of a life loved and lost

These digital traces are not trivial.
They are the sacred artefacts of our time.

And for those grieving an abortion — often without a funeral, gravestone, or public space — online remembrance may be the only place their grief is witnessed.

"That is the heart of Memories After.

Not just a website, but a digital sanctuary.
A memorial wall for the unseen, unspoken, and unborn.

Because grief, too, must adapt to the age it lives in."

Memorial Pages and Online Legacies

Online memorials meet real needs:

For parents unable to speak their grief aloud
For siblings too young to hold a funeral
For friends who long to say, “They mattered to me”
For survivors estranged from family, place, or tradition

Digital grief may seem impersonal to some, but it is often the most accessible, most inclusive, and most enduring way to honour someone who cannot be seen.

The internet never forgets.
And when wielded with care, that is a gift.

"Letting your child’s name live in the cloud does not mean your love isn’t rooted in earth.
It simply means that love — and memory — need not be bound by geography or silence."

The Ethics of Digital Mourning

With new mourning comes new questions:

Who controls a memorial account once someone dies?
Should a page remain forever or fade with time?
What if public grief is performative — liked and shared, but unsupported in real life?
What if the person being remembered caused harm?

These are not easy questions.
Grief online opens moral tensions that physical rituals often do not.

But this remains true:

“Digital mourning must never replace real compassion. It can only extend it.”

If we post condolences, let us also call.
If we light digital candles, let us also weep in person.
If we write tributes, let us also walk beside the grieving in silence.

Presence matters — in pixels and in person.

Creating New Rituals for a New World

Rituals have always helped humanity process death.
From ashes to altars, veils to vigils — we ritualise to remember.

And in the digital age, new sacraments emerge:

Creating online memorial pages
Posting annual reflections on loss anniversaries
Livestreaming funerals for faraway loved ones
Lighting digital candles
Saving voicemails and texts as grief touchstones

These are not lesser rituals.
They are contemporary sacraments.
They matter — especially for abortion grief, where traditional rituals are often denied.

"By giving ourselves permission to grieve creatively, we honour our need to remember publicly."

When the Feed Moves On, But You Haven’t

One of grief’s cruelties is this:

"The world moves on.
But you don’t."

A few weeks after the loss, your feed returns to:

Influencer ads
Political arguments
Vacation reels
Dinners and dances

And there you are — scrolling through a world that no longer reflects the weight you carry.

This dissonance can feel unbearable.

You may wonder: Why am I still grieving when everyone else has moved on?

But here’s the truth:

"Grief isn’t seasonal.
It’s sacred.
And you have permission to move slowly in a world obsessed with speed.

The digital world is fleeting.
But your mourning is not.
And that’s okay."

The Hope of a Digital Legacy Done Right

Now imagine this:

A memorial that grows over time, not fades
A digital wall where friends and family leave tributes for years
A place where your child’s memory becomes a living story — of sorrow, strength, and love
A testimony that reaches others silently grieving abortion loss, letting them know they are not alone

This is what Memories After was built for.

Because we cannot always choose how someone dies.
But we can choose how they are remembered.

And sometimes, remembrance begins with a quiet act:

Click “Create UNBORN Memorial”
Writing their name
Telling their story

"Let your memory be more than a thought.
Let it live — beautifully, courageously — online."

📖 Scripture for a Digital Age of Grief

“Your word, Lord, is eternal; it stands firm in the heavens.” — Psalm 119:89

“He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart.” — Ecclesiastes 3:11

“Write this for the next generation, so that a people not yet created may praise the Lord.” — Psalm 102:18

“Whatever is true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable — think about such things.” — Philippians 4:8

Chapter 16: Spiritual Healing – When God Feels Far Away

There are losses that silence the soul.

Moments when faith, once firm, collapses under the weight of sorrow.
After abortion, many experience not only emotional and relational upheaval — but deep spiritual crisis.

You may wonder:

Where was God when this happened?
Does He still love me?
Is forgiveness even possible?
How can I come back to a faith I feel ashamed to stand in?

This chapter meets you there — not with judgement or religious cliché, but with reverence for your grief and for your story.

"Because healing is not just about remembrance.
It is about reconciliation — with yourself, with your past, and, for many, with God."

The Crisis of Soul

For some, abortion creates or intensifies a fracture between self and God.

You may feel spiritually abandoned — as though God went silent when you needed Him most.
You may feel spiritually condemned — haunted by guilt or shame, fearing divine wrath.
You may feel disillusioned — with your church, your upbringing, or the theology you were taught.
You may feel unworthy — to pray, to return to worship, or to speak the child’s name before God.

"These are not signs of spiritual failure.
They are signs of a spiritual wound.
And wounds — when acknowledged — can be healed."

The False God of Shame

Some carry an image of God shaped not by scripture, but by shame.

This god is cold, angry, punitive — keeping score and demanding silence.
This god watches you suffer, unmoved.
This god only welcomes the righteous, the perfect, the clean.

"That is not the God who heals.
That is not the God who remembers."

The true God — the one revealed in mercy — is near to the broken—hearted.
He enters into our pain.
He does not recoil from our story.
He weeps with us. He walks with us. He restores.

"The God of Love does not erase your past.
He redeems it."

Returning to the Sacred

Spiritual healing may feel impossible if your abortion experience broke your connection to faith. But even here — perhaps especially here — grace is waiting.

Here are some gentle ways to begin reconnecting with God:

Speak honestly — not with polished prayers, but with raw truth: anger, sorrow, fear, longing. God can handle all of it.
Read sacred texts that reflect compassion (Psalm 34, Luke 15, Isaiah 43).
Listen to music that helps you cry, rest, or hope.
Visit a place of worship, even if only to sit in silence.
Meet with a trusted chaplain, priest, or pastor — one who can hold your story without agenda.
Light a candle and speak the child’s name in God’s presence.
Write a prayer — not to explain yourself, but to reveal yourself.

You don’t need to fix your theology before you approach the divine.
You only need to be willing to be seen.

"And you are seen.
Fully. Tenderly. Without shame."

✍️ Narrative Feature: The Day I Lit a Candle in the Church I Left

Delilah, 57, tells how her long estrangement from faith was interrupted by grace.

“I left the church when I was twenty—three.

I had just had the abortion. I told no one. But I couldn’t bear to walk into that sanctuary, surrounded by people I thought would hate me if they knew.

I spent thirty years pretending I was fine. That I didn’t believe in anything anymore.

But the truth is — I missed God.

One day, I passed a small chapel. Something in me stopped. I went in.

The candles were lined up beneath the crucifix. No one was there. It was quiet.

I lit one. I whispered, ‘Her name was Miriam.’

I cried like a child. For her. For me. For the years I spent hiding from a God who never stopped loving me.

I don’t go every Sunday. I’m still figuring it all out.

But I’m no longer afraid of grace.”

A Path Toward Healing

Spiritual healing is not about forgetting what happened.
It is about bringing your story into the light — and discovering that God still meets you there.

Not to condemn — but to comfort.

Not to shame — but to redeem.

You are not spiritually disqualified.
You are not unloved.
You are not forgotten.

Whether your faith is strong, silent, wounded, or just beginning — this too can be part of your healing.

"Come, let Memories After be a place where even your prayers can live.
Add scripture. Add a blessing. Add a message to the child — and to the God who knows them by name."

“Come to me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” — Matthew 11:28

Chapter 17: Your Story Belongs Here

You don’t have to forget.
You are not alone.

You are invited.

Abortion loss is not like other griefs.
It lives in the spaces where no one asks.
It lingers in what was chosen, or what never felt like a choice.
It’s dismissed as politics, silence, or relief — but still it aches.

And then comes the question:

"What do I do with this love that remains?"

That question belongs to you now.

You have lived through something sacred, private, and often misunderstood.

Maybe you were told it wasn’t a big deal.
Maybe you weren’t given permission to grieve.
Maybe even you questioned whether you were allowed to miss someone you never met.

"But something inside you remembers."

You remember the moment.
The date.
The ultrasound.
The heartbeat that was there — and then wasn’t.
The relief, maybe. The regret, possibly. The love — always.

Even if you didn’t tell anyone.
Even if no one saw.
You saw. You remember

And whether you are the mother who carried, the father who stood silently by, the grandparent who grieved in secret, or the friend who knew but didn’t know what to say — your story still matters.

"It matters because your grief is not invalid.
It is love, pressed down and waiting for a place to rise."

This book has given you more than information. It has given language to what was hidden, compassion for what was complicated, and a mirror to remind you: you are not the only one.

But now it offers something even deeper.

A beginning.
A choice.
An invitation.

You are invited to tell the story.

Not the version shaped for silence or shame.
Not the one edited to make others comfortable.

"But the real one — the holy, raw, beautiful truth of your abortion loss, your love, and your remembering."

If You’re Ready

Click Create UNBORN Memorial
Login and begin.

No fee.
No catch.
Just a sacred space, waiting.

You can make your memorial as long or short as you wish.
You can include a name, a prayer, a photograph.
You can post a letter you wrote but never sent.
You can light a digital candle.
You can upload the only image you have — an ultrasound, a necklace, a poem, a date circled on the calendar.
You don’t need to justify your grief.
You only need to honour your love.

Because whether you called them Baby, Little One, Grace, Noah, or nothing at all
They were real.
They were loved.
And they are remembered.

If You’re Not Ready

"That’s okay.

This invitation has no deadline."

Take your time. Revisit the chapters. Breathe through the ache.
Let the slow and sacred work of grief do what it needs to do.

But know this:

"Whenever you’re ready,
Your story belongs here.
Your child, your loss, your memory — they belong here.

You are not forgotten.
You are not judged.
You are not alone anymore."

Welcome to the place where abortion grief is named and remembered.
Welcome to the wall where love still lives.
Welcome to Memories After.

— Eugene Wynyard
Author & Founder, Memories After

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"Healing After Abortion For Grieving Hearts, Families, and Care Givers"

💔 Welcome to Memories After Abortion - Vol I​​

PART I – ABOUT ABORTION

Chapter 1: The Weight of Choice

The Moment of Decision

No Two Stories Are the Same

The Aftermath

Whatever it looks like, it’s valid.

Narrative Feature: The Ultrasound I Kept

A Path Toward Healing

Chapter 2: Social Stigma and Silence

The Unspoken Pain

Judgement from All Sides

Breaking the Silence

✍️ Narrative Feature: The Conversation I Never Had

A Path Toward Healing

Chapter 3: The Global Context – Politics, Laws, and Beliefs

Legislation and Access

The Political Divide

Cultural Narratives

✍️ Narrative Feature: The Clinic Across the Border

A Path Toward Healing

Chapter 4: Faith and Abortion – A Catholic Perspective and Beyond

Catholic Teachings: Doctrine and Compassion

Other Faiths: Diverse Paths to Healing

Finding Peace

✍️ Narrative Feature: The Candle at Mass

A Path Toward Healing

PART II – ABORTION GRIEF

Chapter 5: Women and Abortion Grief

The Physical and Emotional Toll

The Pressure to “Move On”

Healing Through Remembrance

✍️ Narrative Feature: The Name I Chose

A Path Toward Healing

Chapter 6: Men and Abortion Grief

The Silent Partner

Guilt and Powerlessness

Finding a Voice

✍️ Narrative Feature: The Letter I Never Sent

A Path Toward Healing

Chapter 7: Families and Abortion Grief

The Hidden Mourners

Family Secrets

Healing Together

✍️ Narrative Feature: The Family I Didn’t Tell

A Path Toward Healing

Chapter 8: Children and Siblings – The Grief of the Young

Understanding Loss at Different Ages

Signs of Grief

Supporting Young Hearts

✍️ Narrative Feature: The Star I Named

A Path Toward Healing

Chapter 9: LGBTQ+ and Abortion Grief

Unique Challenges

Intersectional Grief

Creating Space for Healing

✍️ Narrative Feature: The Ring I Wear

A Path Toward Healing

PART III – THE EMOTIONAL LANDSCAPE OF ABORTION GRIEF

"Navigating the Complexities of Loss"

Chapter 10: The Many Faces of Abortion Grief

The Spectrum of Emotions

Guilt and Shame

Love Without a Destination

✍️ Narrative Feature: The Day I Cried for Both

A Path Toward Healing

Chapter 11: Traumatic Abortion Experiences

What Makes It Traumatic

Signs of Trauma

Seeking Healing

✍️ Narrative Feature: The Room I Can’t Revisit

A Path Toward Healing

Chapter 12: Delayed Grief – When the Pain Comes Later

Why Grief Waits

Triggers and Milestones

Embracing Late Healing

✍️ Narrative Feature: The Question My Daughter Asked

💔 Welcome to Memories After Abortion - Vol I